Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
You’re Not “Too Much” You’re Just Hurting
EFT helps you understand your emotional needs, improve relationships, and repair the roots of conflict or disconnection.
De-escalation
Disrupts and reduces negative interaction patterns.
Restructuring
Establishes the emotional foundation for improvement.
Consolidation
Builds on positive interaction patterns.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach rooted in attachment science. It focuses on how emotional bonds impact our sense of security, identity, and relationships — with ourselves and others.
Whether used in individual or couples therapy, EFT helps people identify underlying emotions, heal attachment wounds, and build deeper, safer connections.
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What EFT Helps With
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps with a wide range of relational and emotional challenges. It supports individuals and couples dealing with emotional disconnection or fear of vulnerability, attachment wounds from childhood or past relationships, and recurring cycles of conflict in romantic partnerships. EFT also addresses trauma responses in relationships such as fight, flight, or freeze, as well as feelings of being too sensitive, too needy, or not enough. It offers a path forward for those struggling with shame, guilt, fear of abandonment, or emotional shutdown, and plays a key role in rebuilding trust after betrayal.
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Improves Emotional Connection
Reduces Conflict
Enhances Communication
Heals Attachment Wounds
Creates Lasting Relationship Change
Is EFT Right for Me?
EFT may be especially helpful if:
You struggle to express emotions or feel “too much”
You feel distant from your partner, family, or even yourself
You want a therapy that works on deeper, emotional levels
You’ve had past relational trauma or abandonment
You’re in a relationship with repeated conflict cycles
How EFT Works
EFT therapists guide you through:
Recognize Your Emotional Patterns
Identifying your emotional patterns and core needs
Explore the Roots
Exploring where those patterns came from, often attachment-based
Understand the Impact
Understanding how your reactions affect others and how theirs affect you
Shift the Meaning of Conflict
Reframing conflict as a call for connection
Create New Connection Pathways
Building new ways of relating with empathy, safety, and vulnerability
Multilingual Services
EFT at Aref Psychotherapy
We offer Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in one-on-one, couples, and even family sessions. Our therapists are trained in attachment theory, multicultural emotional dynamics, emotion regulation, and trauma recovery. For couples, we use non-blaming, collaborative approaches that foster connection and understanding.
Have Questions About EFT?
Check our FAQ Page for insights on how EFT differs from CBT or DBT, how long EFT takes, and what it feels like in session.
You Deserve to Feel Loved, Safe, and Understood
Let’s work together to rebuild the emotional connection you deserve.